Men and women should be separated and keep distance to avoid obstacles to attaining enlightenment
2025-03-08
Lecture by Master Guang-Qin(釋廣欽)
Nowadays, many men and women who become monks have distracted minds. We need to have a firm faith in the Tao. We should not use Buddhism to compete with society or organize various activities where monks, laymen, men and women are mixed together without distinction. This will lead to a lot of bad thoughts and makes it easy to lose the heart to cultivate the Tao.
Women should be respectful to young male monks, but if we talk to them about irrelevant things, we will be committing a fault. We must respect the Buddha, the Dharma, and the Sangha with solemnity and respect. If we see a Dharma master, whether known or unknown, and we solemnly say, "Dharma master, Amitabha!" we will benefit from it.
Don't think lightly – "We are women, you are men, you can't bother us!" It's not like that!
We respect the monks. If they are originally unruly and cannot control their minds, then because of our respect, they will feel ashamed in their hearts. But they will not show their shame to you. This is formless and the male monks will also benefit from this.
You should feel extremely lucky to be born a woman and be able to become a nun, meet good teachers, and have a stable place to practice. You should practice quickly, change your temper, and get rid of your bad thoughts and ideas.
Women have heavier karma, but if they know how to practice, they can be liberated in this life. Don't take too good care of your body, otherwise once greed arises you will become distracted and lose the heart to practice Taoism. You must practice diligently and be reborn as a man in the next life. You can become a monk from a novice monk to become a holy monk. If you don't practice, you will still fall into the animal realm. You must vow to become a Buddha.
Women are sentimental, don't repeat the love and separation, or even like two women to be together all the time, saying why don't you be with me? You need to separate; you need to stay far away each other. If you continue to be attached, you are evil.
Men and women cannot talk face to face, and cannot directly take things from each other. It's because the Master has concentration, otherwise even if a hundred steps apart, it would still be too close. Your current mindfulness is not even one-tenth of true mindfulness. It is still very dangerous, so you need to pay more attention. Women should try to avoid talking to men.
In a temple for both men and women, men and women must be clearly distinguished. Animals mate seasonally, but not at other times, but humans have strong habits, and it happens anytime and anywhere. Don't be fooled by his gentle appearance... Women should love themselves, and men should not go around when they have nothing to do.
We are ordinary people, and men and women should be clearly distinguished and keep their distance to avoid obstacles to attaining enlightenment. Men and women must keep their distance, even if you live to be a hundred years old. Unless you have attained enlightenment and have strong concentration, it is easy to get into trouble.
Fortunately, women can become nuns in Taiwan. Otherwise, women will only fall into depravity in society. No matter how poorly they practice after becoming nuns, as long as they do not kill, they can be reborn as men in the next life and practice again. It is not easy for women to become nuns, let alone to study elsewhere. Therefore, one should reflect on one's own thoughts, greed, anger, ignorance, arrogance, and doubt.
Women who have become nuns have shown the appearance of a real man, which is equivalent to half a man's body, should not appear feminine. Otherwise, not only will the bad habits not change, but they will give rise to more bad thoughts and create more karma.
